Morning Conversations: Settle Down vs Settling


Meechie HallYou have to learn to build with someone. everyone has to eventually settle for someone. settling only means when u ready to stop dating and give someone a chance. no one is perfect and everyone has to learn to love each other the right way. glad you got what God has planned for you figured out. believe me you never know where you will find love.

16 hours ago ·
  • Ebone Johnson‎”Settle down” and “settling” should not be confused.

    16 hours ago ·
  • Meechie HallWhen u ready to settle down or settling down. U look for what right with a dude not what’s wrong. Its more timing than having everything perfect

    15 hours ago ·
  • Ebone Johnson

    The entire dating process is a series of selecting what’s right with a dude vs what’s wrong. U determine which flaws u can handle and either decide to stay or go. Settle down is when u know without a shadow of a doubt that ur current mate i…s “the one” so there’s no need in acquiring anyone else’s attention or time. Settling is when quality opportunities are/have presented themselves to you but due to ur current mentality, life situations, fear of ACTUALLY being happy you stay where you are in fear of “rocking the boat”. You know there’s something better for you but out of not knowing the unknown you “settle” for what u have vs what u want/need.
    3 hours ago ·
  • Ebone Johnson

    Simple Ex: I need a pen to write with but all I have in my current reach is a pencil. Is the document I need to sign important enough that I need to put in effort to search and locate a pen? Even if it means stepping out of my office(comfo…rt zone) to anxiously track down the pen that is the right color, flows awesomely on paper, ink doesn’t skip, has copious amounts of ink and once this pen has been located I determine hmmm, this is an awesome pen. I need this around. I can’t imagine writing with another pen. OR am I gonna just use the pencil that’s within my reach cuz I’m to lazy to get up get out and do something?
    3 hours ago
Meechie Hall

Looking for happiness is hard enough. Change is constant. Poor get rich and rich gets poor. Players get tired of having hoes. Etc…The divorce rate is high because people are not seeking happiness anymore. These qualifications and seeking …better is why older men leave a wife for the younger version cause they don’t wanna settle. When u get older everyone is going to be stable with a good job and in Church. Flaws are going to be buried deep. Men learn to be qualified to find a wife instead of being good husbands. If u seek happiness and give that man what he needs. A happy relationship creates a happy family. The work overcoming flaws is what builds the strength in relationships. I’m not sayn date flawed men but I suggest u seek happiness first. Flaws change…See More
2 hours ago ·

  • Ebone Johnson

    First off everybody AND they mama is flawed!…lol!I can agree flaws change for we are all ever evolving creatures, however, there are MAIN flaws that show in the beginning of any dating process that both men AND women casually overlook. Of…ten times followed by phrases such as, “I thought he/she would change” or “I mean I knew but, I didn’t know it’d be like this”. The divorce rate is high because people watch too much tv, get married based on the idea vs the reality of marriage, or just flat out get married for the wrong reasons anyway. But what does this example have to do with settle down vs settling?See More
    2 hours ago ·
  • Ebone JohnsonBesides if ur “looking” for happiness does that not somehow indicate you, yourself, deep within aren’t happy? Why look for it when u can just BE happy. I’ve never seen a genuinely content and happy person without company. Now debbie downer or depressed devaughn that’s another story. Check ur aura. Are u even attracting happiness?

    2 hours ago ·
  • Meechie Hall

    Its about being ready to be happy. Like u said everyone has flaws when u don’t look for the flaws. Settling is about u being ready not about a guys flaws. When u ready people change. I just have seen it happen a few time. None of what I say… is in the books. I’m not married or even good at relationship. Just tryn to sound deep on facebook! This is too much reading and writing to start my day out with. Cakes with her damn topics! I do not disagree with yal tho. U know when u meet or have met that person.
    about an hour ago ·
  • Ebone JohnsonWhy not get ur day started with a healthy debate? Get ur brain going and ur mojo all worked up? Ur not married? Not good at relationships? Hhmmmm this has all become humorous now…any hoo! Engage and intrigue ur or someone else’s mental space today and BE the happy that u seek! Cuidate

    about an hour ago ·
  • Meechie HallExactly my point!

    about an hour ago
Cuidate mis amigos
 
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Scared Bunny or Smart Cookie?


ya'll just dont understand...*sigh*

 

Good Day ALL! {and just to answer the question, I’m a smart cookie! ;0)}

*sigh* so, I was reading over at madamenoire.com this article of this lady’s convo with her guy friend during a casual lunch.  The conversation of having children popped up she says, “no I dont want any” and he hits her with the stank face.  Now this is the article located here. Please read it.  She has a very good point and I so totally understand where she’s coming from.

I hear ya sister!

As soon as I say I’m in no rush to marry nor have (IF i have) children I get hit with the “you say that now” “whats wrong with you” *stank face* *blank stare* ALLADAH time!  Im sorry you guys but if I was the type to go through life to make others lives meaningful then I would gladly pop out a few too many babies and enter into a miserable marriage cuz that’s what you guys do/did, right? and you want me to be like you, right?

WRONG!

Just let me be me.  I promise I’m not going to try and change who you are and what you stand for.  Everyone goes through life with their own mantras and understandings as to how it works but please, for the life of me, don’t force your unwanted view of life onto me. Especially the “well my grandmother told me like this so it’s like this” mentality. Please. Keep. To. Self!  I’m quite blunt when pushed into a corner and it can get pretty ugly.  I’m not perfect at all. TRUST!

 

Don’t get me wrong, children are a blessing. Nothing warms my heart more than seeing children be born to couples who genuinely and sincerely like AND love each other.  It brings me great joy.  But if I go to another baby shower, and people (as random as they may be) come up and ask where is my, when are you going to have, why haven’t you had any children questions I’m going to scream! My plan is to just fedex all gifts from here on out.  My confusion is, why is it so important that I have children? You got yours, right? ok! be happy! Let my womb be!

When I reach a mental, emotional, financial capacity to FIRST get married then we’ll see. But please believe buddy will know from jump that birthing babies like bunnies is not my forte.

Live and let live! I’ll baby-sit like nobody’s bidness but when it comes to process the thought of pushing one out? iCan’t.  just can’t.  You who do are strong individuals.  Im too last minute and too “don’t bother me” to bring such precious gifts into the world. 

She says:

Let me explain:

From a practical sense, the world is not in a place where it’s lacking in mouths to feed. By many standards, we’re actually quite overpopulated. And worse yet, there are countless children who are starving, don’t have a home, and don’t even have someone to call “mommy” or “daddy.”

I’ve always had a strong admiration for people who adopt children because I feel like they have selflessly undertaken the responsibility of caring for a child that is already here. So hypothetically speaking, I could argue that simply wanting to have your “own” children, while knowing that there are tons of other children who are in desperate need of a home, is the truly “selfish” act. I actually posed this argument to my friend because he isn’t interested in adopting. He does want to have children. And when I asked him why his stance should not be perceived as “selfish,” his only response was, “Oh, that’s a different thing though.”

Yeah suuuurrrreeee there’s a difference. uh huh. whatever helps you sleep at night bruh….lol.

Go on, cast your judgement ballots now….ion eem care! ;o)

C’est la vie

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AWESOMENESS is upon us…


 

 

Got an awesome surprise via Youtube blogger HairCrush!!  You guys have no idea the level of excitement I have now!! It’ll be here before I know it! So many things to accomplish! So much fun to be had!!

 

Besitos y Brazos!


just me



Natural Hair: Sip and Social


Alright Jackson Naturals!! It is time!

 

 

Time for an Intimate Meet & Greet!!!!
Join us Saturday August 27th for a Natural Hair Meet & Greet!!!

Suite 106
…106 Wilmington Street
Jackson, Ms
$5 Admission 

At this event you will get the opportunity to network with other Naturalistas in the area, and purchase Natural Hair Products, Accessories, as well as dialogue about health/nutrition and speak with Youtube vlogger HairCrush!

In addition we will also be participating in a Product Swap.

Product Swap – Bring a Gently used Natural Product, place it on the table,
and pick up a product you would like to try.

Be sure you get “All Dressed Up.” Jeans are NOT preferred but accepted with fly heels!!!

There will be several giveaways from our sponsors!!! I promise you don’t want to miss it!

This event has limited seating! Secure your spot today by registering at
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Also, make sure you visit the Facebook Events Page and click ATTEND!!! We want to see you there! Spread the word!

If you are interested in being a Vendor or Sponsoring this event,
please contact us at twolittleblackgirls@ymail.​com

 
Come out and help us make this night as awesome as possible!!
 
Chao Bellas
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Old Things are Passed Away…


though i burn in the fires of my trials and tribulations, up from my own ashes i rise. i am renewed, restored, and stronger Phoenix

Im not her anymore

Im not there anymore

Each day is different

Everyday I change

I change hair

views

opinions

beliefs

values

clothes

my mind

friends

conversations

shoes

I change.

for the better?

its arguable

but the fact remains

Im changing

So if once the old things pass away

and all things become new

why is it more comforting to cling

 to that which is behind you

the newness of the new is scary

but necessary

the opportunity to embark in new

sends us into fight or flight mode.

i fight

with everything i am

i have

and will ever know

i press

i move

forward

change. is. good


AAALLLLLL the Single Ladies…Now Put Your Hands UP!


“Single Ladies” is a comedic drama about Val, Keisha, and April – three best friends with different philosophies on sex and relationships.

Val ( Stacey Dash) is an ambitious aspiring fashion mogul who wants to find a true partner. Keisha (LisaRaye McCoy), on the other hand, is a former video dancer just looking for a rich man to keep her in style. April (Charity Shea,) has supposedly found the perfect man and the perfect marriage – but is learning that marriage isn’t necessarily a happy ending.

“Single Ladies” is a modern, sexy series set in the world of Atlanta fashion, music, and celebrity that will constantly explore which woman has the right approach to relationships.         

OK OK OK ALRIGHT ALREADY!..lol Sooooo yesterday after enjoying a day of driving, laughing, eating, and catching up with fam I settled down to watch the Basketball Wives Season Premiere(dont judge me) AND got too comfortable in the chair i was in to change the channel afterwards and ended up watching Single Ladies as well… Welp, it wasn’t all THAT bad. 

Val (Stacy Dash) is like the helpless romantic of the group who gets dissed at the very beginning of the episode by her 5yr boyfriend who later admits that he was never “IN” love with her just comfortable and moms liked her and she was ey candy on his arm.  Well very shortly after breaking it off with her he gets engaged! How does Val find out? His fiance’ walks in buying up the boutique with her new “fiance’s” black card and in walks WHO with her bags? hmmmm…..NEXT! So in a spiral of feelings she sleeps with some random dude (condom breaks…right) oh and she slept with her ex cuz she needed some closure and wanted to make him feel like he “can’t” do better than her…THEN….she’s preggo, but not really cuz the tests she used were expired…lol. whew *wipes sweat* ok enough about Val….NEXT!

Keisha….Keisha…Keisha….what to say what to say. Well, Keisha is the (excuse me for a second) MILF video vixen thats STILL doing videos (as a MILF of course).  On this particular episode she’s shooting Cameron’s video *yawn*.  But, before she can do good, bad gets to her first. See Keisha “supposedly” was a theiving video vixen back in the day and some girl is black mailing her threatening to tell all about it in her new tell-all memoire UNLESS she steals a watch from Cameron’s video set which ends up being the watch of her cat and mouse interest Malcolm *sigh* who’s character makes me wanna spit gum on the side walk. Any hoooo….NEXT!

Kelly Pitts…er uh i mean…April! April is the “i’ve been married since I was 20 and never had a chance to look both ways before i crossed the street” friend who is cheating on her husband who I’m pretty sure has been in a few Temptations movies or Dream Girls…not sure.  Any hoo, she’s cheating on her husband with WHO you ask, *sigh* COMMON! There is something about a man (and by man i mean Common) in a tailored suit! *fans self*. Now Common is the Mayor of this city (Atlanta) and is also married and wants Kelly..i mean April, to stop sleeping with her husband cuz he’s “not sleeping with his wife”.. JUMPING JEHOSOPHAT!!! These people have lost all kinds of brain mass to not only be cheaters but to dictate what happens behind closed doors. Peeps are booolllldddd! The only thing I wasnt feeling about this character is that she couldnt handle her own mess.  She kept dragging her loyal friends into it with out so much as a warning. *sigh* They’re trying to give her the real but she’s fuming off the thrill of being caught and living dangerously….daah well…

That’s my recap…Will i watch it again, sure if I’m near a television thats showing it i most certainly will.

Anybody else watch it? Dont leave me hanging…lol

Besitos Y Brazos

Chao Bellas


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